Monday, March 10, 2014

Facebook (Why or Why Not?)

I'm currently off of Facebook for the 40 days during Lent.    It doesn't really have anything to do with Lent, as I am not Catholic, it's just that Lent reminds me that there are a lot of things I can do without.   Facebook is one of those things.

I'm considering closing my entire account when we move, because it can be such a time waster, focus stealer, and mood changer (not for the good) for Me.   I've heard it said that one in three people feels more sad or lonely after being on facebook than they were before.    There is so much to cause discontent, worry or selfishness and so much extra stuff (on the side bar, news articles, ads, what's "trending") to get distracted with.   I often don't even want to see the pictures or articles that some of my "friends" share!  I Do however, like to keep up with my far away friends, know who's having babies, who got engaged, see people's pictures etc... so I'm very torn.

Thoughts?   I'd love to hear from some readers!   Do you have Facebook?   What do you find redeeming about it?
Have you chosen not to have Facebook?  Why not?

Comments, please!

11 comments:

Bethany said...

The same thing has actually crossed my mind lately… and maybe I'd actually keep up a blog for family/friends to keep up with the life events if I didn't waste time on FB?

Joia said...

Bethany, that's a good point- I, for one, am a Much better blogger when I'm not on Facebook! =)

Rachel said...

I'm taking a bit of a break too, Joia. Lent is also a good reminder for me to take a step back from some things. Your blog post is something I could have written myself! I've blogged every day since I cut back on Facebook.

It's hard for me to think about totally giving it up because I feel like I would lose track of some people but at the same time, I wonder if I should be making more of an effort to connect with those people in other, more personal, ways.

Stacy said...

Hi Joia! I got off Facebook in January for multiple reasons 1) I was wasting a lot of time 2) It was a source of discontentment which resulted in sin 3) very painful to see constant reminders of pregnancies and baby related info during. We have been trying to conceive since 2012.

I feel much more centered and happy after getting off. My sisters send me any articles or links they think I would enjoy. Friends send me pics via email or text. It was supposed to be temporary but now I think it may be permanent!

Jessica said...

I took the whole month of January off and have only been on a handful of times since. I, too, am on the fence about getting completely off. I am much more productive and happy when I am off of it :)

KristinaF said...

I have facebook and have since 2005. Since we are a military family too, it's the only way that I can keep up with my friends and family that I now live far away from. I get the birth announcements and can see my cousins' kids growing up. Plus my sister and I use it as a learn experience. One of us will travel somewhere and post photos & info about the place so we can learn something new. I've started getting friends that will take photos of the historical signs and post them so we can learn about the places they have visited.

Mom W. said...

Being able to only access from the library had been a very GOOD thing for me. I limits the amount of times during the week that I can access it and also the time spent, both very good. I would suggest that you simply limit your access time and stay with only checking new things (news like you mentioned) ignore the side stuff!! ALSO, and this has become REALLY important on my part. Don't post stuff unless it is for prayer, for others (encouragement, births, birthdays etc.) Not stuff I have done that I want people to puff me up about, this can be addictive and ends up making me a boaster and prideful!! Well, at least for me this I had to do!!) I just find I have to be the one in control, and not get into discussions expecially about theology or politics etc, I got in way too much trouble!! =) Sorry if this is too long... Just some thoughts from your ole Mom/

Aunt Heather said...

Hi Joia,

I came across this blog on this topic today. Take a look:

http://www.housewifetheologian.com/

Tiffany said...

I feel like if I were to get off Facebook I'd completely lose touch with too many people. If family or friends were to email me or contact me any other way then it'd be different, but I use Facebook to keep up with others' lives as well as keeping others up to date with myself and my kids. I also use it for support group type things that I'm not sure where to find elsewhere (being able to connect to other spouses of those with PTSD and also moms of kids with the same disease as mine has been a huge blessing). I agree it can be a huge time waster but I personally could not quit it altogether. Perhaps setting aside particular times only a couple of times a week would help eliminate some of the negativity that could come from it but still keep in touch.

Joia said...

Good points, Mom! Thanks for sharing!
Aunt Heather - that article was on point!

I think most of you are saying the same thing... it's about balance.

We shall see...

Debbie said...

I think I am one of only a handful of people in the world who is NOT on Facebook. I never have been on Facebook. From the beginning I heard how much time it was sucking from people's lives, and since I spend too much time browsing the internet already, I didn't need one more thing to spend time on online! :) It's been years and years, and I never have missed it.